Changes and Marriages

KFC or PVP.. I haven't decided yet. Well, it's been quite a while since I've last talked to her. For the one day I might be there, I should see if we could hang out like in old times...

I texted her, "Back at Vijayawada"... A call came in response, "I need to talk".. "Just a second ma'am, am just at the bus stand"... Minutes passed and I dialed her up... "It's just that I'm getting married, and we can't be friends anymore".. Silence... "Cool! Congratulations ma'am"... Well, I knew such a day was coming. I guessed from the sudden silence that she's finally going to get married. I was genuinely happy for my good friend. The person for whom she's been waiting for has finally arrived, but well,  at the expense of our friendship. What can I do? All I could do is rationalize, convey my wishes to her, and promise to let her brother know if anything significant as to be brought to her notice happens in my life. Changes are inevitable. I had to rationalize that, soon, my best buddies will see the similar fate. I can't be as close to them as I am now once the clause of "marriage" enters the scene. Why is it that the women have to change all of their identity when this happens? The friends with whom they've spent years, sharing joys and sorrows, reduced to some insignificant acquaintance. The lifestyle that they've made for themselves soon to be mismatched to the one their significant other wants. Why is it like that?

Why does the guy needn't do that? Why is that he needn't lose any friends, or surname, in that matter... Is this real equality??

My stop has come...

I made my way through the crowded night bus and got down. The night was quiet, beautiful. I shouldn't let my parents know that my head is racing with a brazillion thoughts. I couldn't hide it. All I could say was that I was tired from the journey, and hadn't eaten a nibble since morning. My dad knows what I love. My mum made the best chicken curry, and as I was eating, all I could think was that these feeling shouldn't affect my TOEFL exam...

I unpacked my trolley, and after a warm shower, I got back to thinking...

Will it be the same in like 3 or 4 years when my friends would get married? I texted my best friend of this. She said, "Everything will be alright". Maybe this is what PC saw. He knew that we won't be together for long. Well, we did talk about it. We knew we'll never be together forever... What could we do? We don't know if the prospective groom would be cool or possessive. Why is this possessive nature so friggin characteristic of men in India. Dude, if we were to hit on your fiancé, we'd have done that ages before, or wait, is it that you're just insecure of your own capabilities?. Well, let's not get into that, shall we?

Possessiveness. Why do you think that women are some entity that you can control? Why would you ever think they need controlling? You fail to see that you can never ever control another human being, even if it is your partner. Just give them the freedom to be themselves, alright? Stop worrying so much about what might steal your partner, worry about how to keep him/her happy. But that too, not at the expense of your own sanity. That's how relationships work, that's how relationships ought to be built. But if you think it isn't working out, you simply aren't compatible with each other. Yes, such a word exists. And yes, I do believe that it is better to leave the person than to live your life with him/her denying and lying to yourself each day. It's your life, for goodness sake. If you don't want it to be controlled, stop controlling others.

Pr@veen